Flinn ∙ Feb 3, 2010

Well, after reading your entry I don't think enough time has passed for you yet. Your bully seems sincerely to regret his actions and it's a big deal enough for him to feel a need to apologize to you (and ease his own bad conscience). I was in a similar situation at school when i was twelve, and it did take me years to let go of my own grudges. But people do grow and time heals wounds, as stupid as it sounds. I believe eventually you will be able to forgive him. More than anything, don't let something negative like past bullyings of 14-year-olds shadow your new friendships. You and the people having nothing to do with some sad bully taking out his own bad feelings on you a few years back in his teenage angst, deserve better.
Good luck to you Adele

dltn43 ∙ Feb 3, 2010

I went through alot of stuff while in school myself (and my children as well) and although I am not as shy nor as concerned what other people think of me or whether or not someone likes me or not I'm still a forgiving person to a fault.  This is not to say that I have forgiven every thing someone has done or said to me.  I do understand how you both feel about this sort of thing.  I feel as though if I can forgive someone that it somehow lifts that burden of anger, animosity, hatred and all the other ranges of emotions that this offence has caused me.  There are times that I have forgiven someone, but also let them know not to contact me any longer.  So this helps me out bunches when I can do this.  I hope this works out for you benefit.  And I am so sorry that this person put you through all that crap.  Kids can be so cruel and it makes me wonder where they learn all of the meaness and hatred from.    Take care Adele!      Diana

GreatWesternUK ∙ Feb 3, 2010

My daughter has suffered the same as you have when she was 14, she is now 16 & to get her away from the bullies i had to move her on to college & into a Pre 16 course! As my daughter would say " Why the hell should you!" Then she has had nothing but grief from certain people on Facebook too, but reporting them doesn't always work. It's as if Facebook doesn't care! I hope it works out for you, i really do. Just ignore the message & get on with your life! These people are not worth the time of day, i know some would say you should turn the other cheek & forgive them! But I & my daughter feel they should live with thier guilt etc, i'm not saying this to offend anyone but as a father who has picked up the pieces these people leave in thier wake! Sod them girl, all the best to you.